Therapy for Perfectionism

You hold yourself to a high standard and from the outside, it looks like you’re doing very well. But internally, it rarely feels like enough.

You overthink mistakes, struggle to switch off, and feel a constant pressure to do more, be better, get it right.

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Does This Feel Familiar?

From the outside, perfectionism can look like success. On the inside, if often feels exhausting. You might:

• You set high standards and feel like you’re constantly falling short

• You struggle to start because it has to be perfect

• You replay conversations and decisions long after they’re over

• Small mistakes feel bigger than they ‘should’

• Feel intense self-criticism after small mistakes

• Your sense of worth depends on how well you perform

• Find it hard to rest without guilt

What Is Perfectionism?

Perfectionism isn’t just about wanting to do well.

It’s often rooted in a deeper belief that mistakes aren’t safe, that being ‘less than perfect’ could lead to criticism, rejection, or not being enough.

Over time, this creates constant pressure, tension, and a sense that you can’t fully relax.

How Therapy for Perfectionism Helps

In therapy, we focus on helping you step out of the pressure, not by lowering your standards, but by changing how you relate to them.

• understanding the beliefs driving the pressure to be perfect

• reducing harsh self-criticism

• building tolerance for mistakes and uncertainty

• working through avoidance and procrastination patterns

• developing more flexible, balanced thinking

• reconnecting with motivation that isn’t driven by fear

A Personalised Approach

Therapy with me is collaborative and shared around you.

We start by making sense of how perfectionism shows up in your life and what night be driving it beneath the surface. Often, these patterns developed for a reason, and understanding that is an important part of changing them.

Alongside practical tools to help you feel more at ease day-to-day, we may also explore deeper work where helpful. This can include EMDR therapy, particularly when perfectionism is connected to earlier experiences of criticism, pressure, or conditional approval.

There’s no pressure to move faster than feels right. The focus is on helping you feel more grounded, more flexible, and more able to relate to yourself with less pressure and more ease.

You Don’t Have To Keep Living Under Constant Pressure

It’s possible to feel more at ease in yourself; to do well without the constant internal pressure, and to feel more steady, confident, and grounded.